How To Control Your Arousal Levels And End Premature Ejaculation
Using Different Sexual Positions
You cannot have sex without using at least one sexual position -
that's obvious, right?
Most people, though, tend to use more than one. The average
number of positions used per sex "session" is two.
That may seem like a really low number, but considering 70% of
men ejaculate before they or their partner are satisfied, it's
not surprising so few positions are able to be used.
The key point that should be noted here, though, is not the
number of positions the average couple use, but is instead a
much broader principle: Sex, as a physical act, is fundamentally
based around the use of different positions.
Therefore, they are inherently linked to the performance of the
male, each having a different effect on him and each bringing
about a varied amount of satisfaction in the female.
Understanding that simple principle allows you, as a man, to
latch onto a much more powerful and useable concept:
Your sexual performance, arousal containment and general ability
to perform impressively in bed can be directly controlled,
improved and boosted by the effective choice and use of sex
positions. That's the topic of this article - so let's wade
right in.
The first thing to always bear in mind when you have sex is how
each sex position you use will affect your arousal control -
that is, your ability to maintain an erection and continue sex
without interruptions and without ejaculating too soon.
Certain positions, because of the way your body is posed, put
stress on your legs, arms or other parts of your body. This
stress, caused by maintaining the position while having sex,
makes controlling your arousal and holding back from ejaculation
much more difficult.
Contrary to popular belief, the missionary position does not
offer you much control over your arousal - despite the fact
you're controlling the motion/action of intercourse. This is
because, to properly maintain the missionary position, you have
to support your body weight using a combination of your arms and
legs. You're essentially propping yourself up. After a couple of
minutes of propping and thrusting, the stress on your body's
muscles has often increased just enough to tip you over the
edge, which causes you to suddenly lose control of your arousal
levels and ejaculate too soon.
However, this doesn't mean you should remove the missionary
position from your love-making repertoire. What you should do,
is simply be aware of the stresses it can cause and the effects
those stresses can have on your ability to control your arousal
levels. With this knowledge, you can choose to use the
missionary position as the first one in your sex session - while
you're most in control and least tired overall.
Let's take this principle of bodily stress and its resulting
negative effects on your performance control further. Positions
such as 'woman on top' or 'reverse woman on top' (her facing
away from you, while sitting on you) offer you better control
than positions in which you squat down or prop yourself up on an
elbow or hand - regardless of the fact that she's controlling
the action.
Therefore, try using them nearer the end of your love-making
session, when you're the most physically fatigued and closest to
ejaculating - these are the times when removing the stress
caused by certain sex positions can prove crucial in allowing
you to avoid premature ejaculation.
Finally, never underestimate the power of the 'Spoons' position.
'Spoons', if you don't already know, involves you lying on your
side with your legs slightly bent, with the female pressed
against your front, her legs slightly parted, her hips tilted to
one side, and her knees bent.
This position offers you massive control over your arousal
levels. First, because you're lying down and not forced to
maintain an awkward pose (which eliminates the bodily stress
principle just described). Second, because you're fully in
control of the thrusting action, which means you can speed up or
decrease the power, depth and frequency of the action. And, if
those reasons weren't enough, you're in a great position to lean
your head over her shoulder, slow down the rhythmic thrust of
your hips (and therefore give yourself time to calm your arousal
levels), and gently kiss and caress her neck and cheek.
Women love men who take control during sex through the use of
different positions. They, however, don't realise that sex
positions give you, as a man, an alternative kind of control -
in the form of reliable arousal containment and in the overall
improvement of the length and quality of your sexual performance.
Always remember to use sex positions wisely!