Wham, Bam, Thank You M'am - Sizzling Tips to One Night Stand
While personally speaking, one night stands have never appealed
to me, I know of several men who would not mind indulging in a
bit of casual sex without any hope or binding that it should
culminate in a serious relationship. As a general rule, men do
not have too many hang-ups about such indulgences.
There are a lot of women too, who are not keen on getting into
any commitment and can agree to this kind of casual sex with
their dating partners. There are very heavy chances though, that
during your dating life, you will get into a situation, what I
term as reverse-payback. This means that while you get mentally
attached to a woman who you indulged with, for a quickie, but
before you know it, she has left you.
If your sole aim is to have these one night stands, go ahead,
indulge, but prepare yourself with a stronger head and a
steadier mind. While there are enough women not too keen on
commitments, but have casual sex as a mode of having fun, they
are essentially however, looking for the same standards from men
, as other women : dignity, trust and that magical spark called
attraction, except, may be in different amounts. If you are
seriously contemplating to indulge only in these casual sex
encounters, you have to hype up your seduction powers: abundance
of humor, charm and the ability to tease your way through, so
that your plan bears fruit faster. From a public arena, move
quickly to a more private, romantic and secluded place, where
you can communicate with her one-to-one. While you move her away
from the public glare, pump up your seducing prowess to the
hilt. The two should be worked out simultaneously to make that
magic happen.
In case you are in a quandary, as to which women to select for
such a sexual escapade, the right target are those women who you
have an instant chemistry with. Through the right communication,
glances, touches, the instant chemistry "clicks" - and you have
found the right person. Please don't judge these women as "easy"
or "cheap" - it is simply that they are "readily available" at
that moment.
One can't deny that ever so often we meet such women, with whom
just the eye contact, spells instant attraction and we have that
butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling from that moment. But beware,
such women fall in to the far side of the range - from
"super-easy" to super-rigid" - and all along you must have to
practice the basic principles of self-discipline and controlled
behavior.
How you manage a one night stand depends primarily on your
personality and your requirements. There are many instances
where a one night stand has culminated in a brief romantic
interlude. Please note that it is indeed hard to graduate from a
one night quickie and glide into a steady, trusted and stable
relationship. The basis of almost all short to long term
relationships is, a far more lengthier period of romancing
rather than jumping into frenetic sex.
It is beneficial for you to remember one basic fact: honesty is
the best policy, even in bed! While you are in the seduction
process, be honest and truthful about your intentions, face up
to whatever you are committing - do not glib talk your way
through right into her bed or panties ! For the simple reason,
lies ultimately don't take you anywhere.
Not only is deception dishonorable, you do get paid back in your
own coin, sooner or later. I am not scaring you with concepts of
bad "karma" but as an adult, you know that every action you take
today, will pave the way for your tomorrow, and many tomorrows.