Become The Change You Want To See
Today I had an errand to run in a nearby larger town - a
working-class place; defined by industrial estates, a busy
shopping area and an airport on its outskirts. Surrounded by the
gentle rolling English countryside, it stands out harshly, like
the proverbial sore thumb.
Yet, on its south western edge, are the Downs - a surprisingly
high range of chalk hills. I thought my dog would love a good
run up there. Panting, and trudging through a mixture of cattle
trodden mud and dung up an incredibly steep hill, I already
regretted that misguided flash of inspiration. At the top, I
turned to take in the view, and was left breathless.
Not with joy and pleasure, but with repulsed disgust. Beneath me
a seemingly endless sprawl of tin warehouse roofs and dirty
cottage facades, interspersed in the distance not with trees,
but pylons, and run-down high rise apartments - all of this
ugliness tightly shackled by grey concrete bands, bursting with
incessant traffic seemingly heading nowhere. As if that weren't
enough, the lorries and cars were creating a deafening racket,
together with the noise of concrete mixing machines, rubbish
trucks, cranes and the occasional siren somewhere in the smoggy
haze. Like a scene from a modern adaptation of Dante's Inferno,
it made me wonder at man's power to create ugliness in the midst
of beauty.
There I stood, almost immobilised by this unexpected assault on
my senses. But only for a moment; Cookie's happy bounces and
playful, tail-wagging nudges tugged me right out of the doomsday
gloom of my thoughts. Watching her race downhill as fast as the
ball I threw flicked a switch in my mind and suddenly the world
was a beautiful place again.
With nothing but a shift in my attention I became aware of the
birdsong from the nearby shrubs, the pastel coloured catkins
waving gently at me in the early spring breeze. I noticed the
bizarre and beautiful shapes the clouds were sculpting against a
bright blue sky as the tender rays of sunshine kissed the back
of my neck.
And here I was, on top of the world feeling grateful for these
moments of beauty. Thankful for the insight and ability to see
what was hidden in the spaces between the ugly patches of what
we call civilisation.
It was then that I became aware again that we always have a
choice. Whether we know it or not, it is our decision to make a
day a great one, to create a horrendous experience or one of
personal growth. We have the power to decide whether we see the
ugly and hideous or the beauty in the little gaps in-between.
Every day we are faced with hundreds of choices and it is in our
minds that we create the kind of life we decide to live. Next
time you are in a situation that makes you angry, frustrated or
fearful, take a close look and you will most certainly find
that, hidden away in there somewhere, is the opportunity to turn
it into something great.
This is not to say that we shouldn't try to change the world and
make it a more beautiful place. If I stay quiet and accept the
barbarism, then I too am guilty of abusing the beautiful
environment that is our birthright. But you will never change
the world if you cannot first change yourself. As Gandhi said,
become the change you want to see.
In our coaching work, whether with groups or individuals, we are
always amazed at how much more empowered and motivated people
feel once they truly understand the power of having a choice.
Even an ordinary affirmation can create huge changes when you
simply incorporate a choice. Often, it makes a statement more
believable.
Try this: think of an affirmation you would like to be true but
which isn't quite yet. This could be something like; 'I am
healthy and fit', 'I am wealthy', 'I am a perfect size ....'
etc... Now, change it to; 'I choose to be healthy and fit', 'I
choose to be wealthy', 'I choose to be a perfect size...'.
Can you notice where the power is when you say that? It is
within you - all you need to do is make your choice. And from
the moment that you make the empowering, positive choices,
you're well on your way to seeing and experiencing the beauty of
life.