3 Proven Strategies To A Healthy And Happy Relationship
Is creating a healthy, happy relationship with the love of your
life a dream for you? Not at all, if you would learn some
fundamental principles to keeping and maintaining a happy
relationship. The principles discussed here can also be applied
to all your human relationships - whether it's with your child,
your friends, your co-worker, or even your boss!
(1) Acceptence And Forgiveness
Don't try to change someone. This is a must. If a person really
wants to change, that person will need to be motivated and take
action. Period. And if you seriously desire and hope to see the
changes you like to see in you partner. Here's the secret. Do
not make your desire to change him/her looks like your desire to
change him/her!
Also regarding acceptance, accept limitations. He is not
Superman; you are not Wonder woman. No one is perfect; so do not
expect perfection. Accept the little flaws that come with each
person. You accept theirs; they accept yours.
If and when things get out of hand and it is your fault,
apologize and ask forgiveness and move on. Similarly, be
acceptable to apologies and grant forgiveness, too. Life is too
short to stay focused on the negative too long. No need to deny
it; face it, deal with it and move on past it to improve and
strengthen your relationships. And learn to forgive and forget.
That's life!
(2) Bonding And Communication
Bonding with another person generally does take time. Learn the
art of good communication. Talk, listen, share the good and the
bad, ask questions, compliment instead of nag or insult.
In short be a friend; make a friend. Your partner has been your
friend, and today he is still your best friend. Things happen
from time to time and cancellations are a part of life. The best
of friends expect nothing from the other person. There is only
love. Check judgmental attitudes at the door. That is healthy.
Always remember this, if you go into a relationship to change
another person and demanding your mate communicate and bond with
you the way you want it, you are heading for touble, and your
relationship will go downhill. Period.
If this bonding is lacking, it may mean professional help is
needed (like a counselor or therapist) or it may be time to
learn to draw in your true love.
(3) Expectations And Human Nature
Movies, romance novels and television shows often portray life,
especially human relationships, very differently than it is in
the real world - this is no secret. How many people really
always look like movie stars, have zero health ailments, endless
income without hardly ever going to work, fabulous cars and
homes, friends and family who totally adore them and come to
their beckon call, no long-term problems because they all end so
quickly, etc.? And who can battle serious issues like one person
having an affair with someone else, and wrap the whole storyline
up in two hours?
Get real. Expect a little less than the media portray and learn
more about humans by joining the real world scenario. Learn all
you can about human nature and human relationship if you have
the change. This course of study is a fasinating subject. You'll
learn more about your-self and your partner in ways you have
never known before.
The bottomline is, always remember that whatever you need is
already here, within you, within your reach. You do not have to
search for your power from other people. If you shift your
center onto another person and expect him or her to hold your
core structure for you, you are bound to have a failing
relationship and suffer from a broken heart.