How to Change Your Subconscious Tales
Copyright 2006 Cole's Poetic License
. . . so people won't laugh at you for lying.
"What do you mean, lying?" I hear you ask.
I'm talking about body language--the subconscious story you tell
people. You tell with your body what you think of yourself
generally and at the moment. It may be the opposite of what you
are saying.
You know, don't you, that we all learn how to walk at least
twice. Some go on to learn a few more times. The first time, of
course, is around age one. The second time occurs between ages
13 and 17. That's when we are deciding who we are. We practice
walking, consciously. Remember?
After a while the walk becomes subconscious. Gestures do, too.
Every time I struggle to express a concept verbally to a
listener, I run my left hand through my hair. I am never aware
of doing it or of messing up my hairstyle. I must be trying to
relax my frontal lobes so I can find the words to make sense. I
don't see myself walk or dance, either, but I do know I've
always had tight shoulders.
Tight shoulders reveal anxiety. Existential anxiety.
If you read "Self for Sale", you know how body language is part
of your frame, how you frame every offer you make.
And, no matter what you do every day, you are making an offer to
somebody in exchange for something. (Unless you're a hermit.)
It's fun to watch mimes perform. They can say so much with their
bodies.
My stepdaughter has a master's degree in dance therapy. When I
asked, she explained that she studies a client's body language.
She knows which habitual movements express negative feelings and
which positive ones. She works with recovering drug addicts who
have very few natural positive motions. These she encourages to
become habitual. The negative moves she discourages. Her clients
are learning how to walk again. And dance.
Actors and politicians learn how to walk more than twice, too.
It's fun to watch political speeches on television with the
sound muted. Even if a president is reading from a teleprompter
and has rehearsed all his gestures beforehand, his subconscious
still tells a tale. How you intrepret it, of course, depends on
your subconscious.
We kid ourselves when we think we are rational.
In fact, knowing we are not rational can be a saving grace, the
beginning of a better life. It certainly was for me. I tell all
about it in Brainsweep.
I'm sure you know that there are several ways to change our
subconscious tales. All it really takes is realizing we are
telling them. After that we can write them out, as in
Brainsweep, hypnotize them into changing, as in Centerpointe,
Sedona, and Effort-free Living, dance them out or Method Act
them out. (I'm guessing on the Method Act one)
Of course, if you like the tales you're telling now, just keep
on dancing.
Evy, The Whole-mind Writer
P.S. Next time you watch TV, mute the sound and guess what each
person is really saying.