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Three Tips for Online Dating Success By Kim Lance, Associate
Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
New to the online dating scene? Well, believe it or not, online
dating can be just as competitive, if not more so, than
traditional dating. Don't let that discourage you, however. Many
people have found a date, and often marriage, through online
dating services. There are tips and strategies that can help you
get your profile noticed over your competition. Here are three
strategic steps you can take that can give your profile the look
and feel it needs to attract the kind of people you would love
to meet.
Tip 1: Pick the Perfect Profile Photo Your photo is one of the
most important factors that will attract people to your profile.
First and foremost, make sure you have a recent picture. Sure
that picture of you in the bikini while on college spring break
back in 1995 may be cute, but when your date meets you expecting
you to look like you did in college, your date will be
disappointed. This can create mistrust and cause your date to
feel upset and deceived. This is never a good thing when trying
to start a relationship.
Also, pick a photo that will show off your best features. Make
sure you are wearing a friendly smile, it will be much more
inviting than a serious pose or, obviously, a frown. Always
avoid photos where you are with another person, or, worse yet,
you have chopped the other person out of the photo, only to
leave behind a mysterious arm. Your date may be confused by
which person is actually you or wonder who the "mysterious arm"
belongs to.
Tip 2: Use Your Username to Reveal Your Interests You may think
your username is just your way to log in to your online dating
service, but this isn't the case. Your username is one of the
first things that someone will read about you and a good
username can mean the difference between a profile view and a
profile pass up. A common technique is to go with the
traditional anonymous username like "Jenny321" but why miss out
on a key opportunity to catch someone's attention or reveal a
bit about yourself?
Make your username original and make it say a little something
about your personality. Pick "SweetSinger" as your username if
your hobby is singing or "DodgersDude" if your an avid Dodgers
fan looking for company. Your clever username will not only
share a little bit about your personality or interests, but can
also attract people with the same interests. But be careful not
to give the wrong impression. Just because you interpret the
username "FunLovin" to mean you love to have fun, the person
viewing your profile may think "FunLovin" means you are looking
for some fun lovin', if you know what I mean.
Tip 3: Don't Say It, Prove It! And Be Specific When developing
your profile description, you may be tempted to write something
like "I'm funny and smart with a good sense of humor." This is
simply a boring list of adjectives... the same adjectives that
are showing up on thousands of other profiles. If you want your
profile to really stand out, you need to describe yourself
through specifics.
Instead of saying you are "funny" or have a "good sense of
humor", make your profile funny. Crack a couple of tasteful
jokes or relate a funny incident. This will prove to your viewer
what sort of sense of humor you have. If your sense of humor is
attractive to that viewer, they will contact you. Rather than
just stating that you are "smart", list your favorite books or
your interests that would prove to your viewer how smart you
are. This will also give your viewer some specific examples that
he or she will be able to relate to directly.
Remember, just because you have a profile up, doesn't
necessarily mean you will immediately get responses. These three
tips will certainly help, but play around with the contents of
your profile until you start getting the results you want. If no
one is responding to your list of interests, put up some new
ones. Switch your photos every once in a while to see what sort
of response you receive. As you experiment with your online
dating profile, you will hopefully begin to find the responses
you have been looking for.
Kim Lance is the Associate Publisher of Online Dating Magazine
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