Do you know that love at first sight is an illusion?
Lust at first sight
Do you know that there is nothing like love at first sight only
lust at first sight? I have often times heard a lot of people
say "We saw each other for the first time and fell in love
instantly", but it just doesn't happen the way they say it
because I have encountered people who after hearing this kind of
talk, went out hoping to find someone they would fall instantly
in love with and they end up after getting the person,
pressurizing them into early sex. Most of these relationships
end up in the gutter.
To groom a lasting relationship is not an instant thing, to
have someone truly say they love you genuinely is not and can
never be an instant thing. I see you're already about to put up
an arguement but hold on and I'll show you everything you need
to know.
Before one gets into a relationship, there is something called
the waiting period, and this is the period when one discovers
oneself and develop the ability to tolerate others.
Relationships have crumbled before our very own eyes, not
excluding marriage and part of us looses hope of ever finding
that partner that our heart tells us exist but our brain says
it's an illusion.
The heart and the brain are in constant battle for supremacy;
the heart gives counsel that leads to heartbreak while the brain
gives counsel that leads to loneliness.
From observation, Maturity and Acceptance have a lot to do with
success of a relationship. In order for you to successfully
navigate your way through life and stay together with your
lover, you need these two ingredients in your relationship.
While I do agree that attraction is very vital in a
relationship between you and your lover, it is far from being
the most important factor when it comes to your creating a life
long relationship that you and your lover hope would lead to
marriage.
There is no love at first sight only LUST at first sight; if
you are one of those that believe in the former, then you happen
to be one that is either blinded by youth or a raging libido.
It's impossible for you to love some one you don't know and
respect and all of these take quite some time. From experience,
I would tell you that time is the most important thing you can
invest to have at least a 50% chance of success in any
relationship.
Some relationships I have observed have companionship and
friendship as their bedrock and this can only come when you and
your lover know each other WELL. By knowing your lover, their
faults become a peculiarity that ultimately makes them unique.
While I was taking a cup of coffee one morning, I overheard
three young ladies sitting across my table discussing their
relationships. What drew my attention was the comment one of the
girls made, she said she has an uncle who told her that he
cannot go to sleep without hearing his wife's gentle snoring!!
She continued by saying that even when they are apart, they talk
to each other until the snoring commences. Sounds funny!
Well we all have our various unique qualities we like in our
lovers and I'll advice that you just magnify those qualities and
accept the weakness in order to have a long lasting and spiced
up love life.
Till next time, GOOD LUCK in your relationship
Donald. A www.justusalone.com +2348027466159