Build Your Self-Esteem
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a
tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a
starter guide to self improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else
around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These
dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in
ways you won't even remember. Don't let them destroy you, or get
the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment Beware of "dog eat dog"
theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This
is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will
appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner,
and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much
without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it
will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be
healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People's Behavior Bulldozers, brown nosers,
gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking
wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders,
patronizers, sluffers... all these kinds of people will pose bad
vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement
scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment You can't be a green bug on a
brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our
flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes
will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it
will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be
there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience It's okay to cry and say "ouch!"
when we experience pain. But don't let pain transform itself
into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around.
Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View Look at what you're looking at.
Don't wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world.
In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out
of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory The way you are and your
behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your
inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your
environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the
economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity.
If your father is a failure, it doesn't mean you have to be a
failure too. Learn from other people's experience, so you'll
never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born
leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying
positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for
self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God
wouldn't come down from heaven and tell you - "George, you may
now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your
self."
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people
around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle
field, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to
use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life's options give
us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and
bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means 'self
change'. The kind of change which comes from within.
Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our
attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if
we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and
what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a
brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we
take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem
brings about self improvement, true assessment, and
determination. So how do you start putting up the building
blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be
appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A
positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your
starter guide to self improvement.
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