Number Games
Number Games
To answer this question, first we will start with the psychology
of what is happening and then how to properly deal with this and
other similar situations.
THE PSYCHOLOGY
A few years ago, I worked in Human Resources with a boss that
had a unique technique for hiring people. After completing the
interviews for a particular position, he would call back the
candidate he liked best, and say:
"I want to thank you for your application, but I just don't
think you're the right person for this job"... and then he would
listen for a response.
If the person said, "OK, thank you for the opportunity." he
would just hang up and call the next person on his list.
However, if they said, "Wait a minute, I am the best person for
the position, I'm sure of it." He would say, "Well, tell me
more. Why do you think so?"
The point here is that in a hiring situation, there are usually
many people applying for one or few positions and the
interviewer needs to weed the garden so-to-speak.
This was a great technique for doing just that and I'm sure you
can see where I'm going with this.
When I first started walking up to women and trying to get their
phone numbers, I accepted rejection as a necessary evil. If I
had a dollar for every woman that said: "Why don't you give me
yours, and I'll call you instead" or... "I don't give out my
number" or... "I'll give you my pager number" or... "I lost my
phone and my number is disconnected"
...I'd be rich.
Well, one day, probably out of frustration, when a woman started
to give me an excuse, I just looked at her, pointed to the piece
of paper I had, and said:
"Just write it down, it's going to be OK." And, lo and behold,
she wrote her number down.
I thought "No way, it must have been an accident." So I tried it
again the next time I got resistance. Sure enough, it worked
again.
THE TECHNIQUE
The long and the short of it is that beautiful women are
approached constantly and need quick and easy ways to test your
mettle.
Polite men that say "Oh, OK, sorry for bothering you..." or
"OK, here's my number, call me..." are not sexy or attractive.
On the other hand, men that say:
"Oh, it's OK... you don't have a phone? That's nothing to be
embarrassed about" or "And you expect me to believe that?" in a
cocky, funny way instantly telegraph the message: "I'm not
giving up easily, and I see through your games." are very
attractive. It just says all the right things.
Attractive women get a lot of attention. They're not looking
for a guy that throws himself at her, and then gives up easily.
They're looking for a guy that has all kinds of self confidence,
and sees right through her games... to the point where he
disarms her and walks away with the digits.
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