The "Player" - Unveiling the Truth behind the Age Old
Misconception
Once you have entered the dating arena, one term you will often
hear women discuss is - the Player. While he is another "jerk",
the name Player is used very loosely by women. Since I was very
keen to know what women actually meant when they describe a man
by calling him a Player, I went ahead and interviewed dozens of
women. What emerged from these interviews was a vague
description of this character, nothing solid to form a
definition. But reading between the lines, I think I have
identified what is meant by that word.
Women call a man a Player, when he is identified as dating
several women at the same time, with the sole intention of
laying them, to satiate his libido. He does not evoke trust and
normally women are a bit skeptical about any liaison with a man
of such dubious reputation. These references often put a bit of
fright and a sense of guilt in other men, limiting our choices
to a single woman for dating. It is an irony that we start
believing that Players are "Bad" men, from the loose references
made by women who have met them or heard of them.
The title of a Player often rubs off on other men, as they
equate him with having loose morals and infamous reputation, who
lays women at the first available opportunity. Where we miss out
is that none of us care to go deep into this man and learn what
he is doing right! We simply brush him aside, with pre-conceived
notions of him being another avoidable character, who just has
this amazing caliber of artful seduction.
The crux of the whole issue is that don't be judgmental and go
just by the name "Player", without understanding him or the
subtlety behind this nomenclature.