Dating Personals: Photo Tips
You're ready to try online dating. You've polished your profile,
and your best friend has concluded that you are so attractive
that even they would like to date you. It's come to that time!
Somebody online who posted a dating personal wants to see what
you look like. What picture of yourself will you paint when you
display a photo along with your profile?
There are a few guidelines that apply to online dating photos
that you should observe which will improve your profile. These
are as follows:
1. Do add at least one photo of yourself to your profile! If you
don't, you're seriously putting yourself at a disadvantage. Many
people search only for people who have uploaded photos. Still
others don't like the idea of a "blind date," and won't go
through with a meeting if they haven't seen what you look like.
2. Remember that you are trying to be a salesperson here; you're
trying to sell yourself. Look at the photographs of other people
on the online dating site. Is yours similar? If so, you will not
stand out from the crowd! The photo you post should be good
quality.
Do yourself a favour and forget the shot that someone took of
you when you were at a nightclub last month, cut off just to one
side where your ex was still in the photo. There are tons of
photos like this, and they don't make people want to find out
more! Your profile will be more attractive than if you hadn't
posted a photo, probably, but you're still not going to stand
out from the crowd and do yourself justice. Ask yourself what
you would want to see if you were a member of the target
audience (usually the opposite sex), looking at your profile for
the first time, and be critical.
At the very least, have a photo taken of yourself for the
express purpose of using with your dating profile. You don't
need to have had it done professionally, although it certainly
wouldn't hurt! I suggest you find yourself someone who has a
digital camera (or have them borrow yours) and can take photos
well, and offer them a pint or three to take several photos of
you. Get them to take a fair number of photos (20 or so),
perhaps on different settings, because not all of them may work
well, and because you then have a good selection to choose from.
Choose your backdrop carefully! A nice simple approach is to go
to a field or a beach when it's near sunset, and have photos
taken of yourself against this background. The background you
choose should show yourself in a romantic or fun setting, and
your clothes should be appropriate to that setting.
How about an interesting alternative? If you know somebody who
is good with art packages such as Paint Shop Pro, have them
paint out the background, and change the photo so that it looks
like a spotlight is shining on you!
3. It may be a good idea to try and improve the photo, as is
often done of photos of models in advertising. If you have any
obvious, but small, disfigurements, these could be airbrushed
out with a painting package. If you can't do it yourself, you
probably know someone who can do it for you. Don't go overboard
with this; make sure the photo still looks like you!
4. Don't be tempted to lie by posting a photo of George Clooney
or Catherine Zeta Jones, unless of course you really are one of
those people! The photo must be one of yourself, otherwise when
it comes to a face-to-face meeting, the relationship could be
over before it's even begun!
5. This tip is not well-known. Add a border to your photo,
coloured the same as the hyperlinks on the target site. The
reason for this is partly to make your photo stand out, but also
because most photos shown on online dating agency sites are also
links to your profile. Your photo will then look like a link,
and it increases the chance of it being clicked on. If there is
any "outside" to your photo, this should then have the exact
same colour as the background of the site. This can be found by
using Alt-Print Screen to grab an image of your web browser when
on the dating site, then pasting it into an art package, and
identifying the colour from there. (Note that some online dating
agency sites already supply borders around images; the trick
will not work on these.)
6. If you have several photos of you doing interesting
activities and the site permits it, post one photo of you doing
each activity in addition to your head-and-shoulders shot. For
example, photos of you skiing while on holiday; photos showing
you braving the rapids in white-water rafting; photos of you
doing your favourite sport. They help to prove that you do the
things you say you do in your profile, and they make your
profile more interesting!