12 Hazardous Chatter Issues to Evade during a Date - Dating
Advice for Men
Listing below some topics to keep away from, while talking
during a date:
* Avoid talking about things which stir up memories of negative
things, like violence, wrestling, rape, child abuse, death
stories, animosity, hatred, cruelty. She is a woman after all!
* Avoid bringing up the past - both hers and yours. If she is
curious about yours, steer the conversation on to something
else. And never pass any derogatory comment about any past woman
you may have had a relationship with.
* Never demean yourself, even if you mean it as a joke, as it
gives a signal of low self-esteem. And you will never get her on
your side, sympathetically or empathetically.
* Any topic that can be remotely controversial, like racism,
apartheid, abortion, religion.
* What is wrong with her professional life and her boss or her
employer. This triggers negative memories and does not add any
value to your dating time.
* Never broach the topic of her past romantic liaisons.
* Issues related to health problems or past or present illnesses.
* Don't show off or overtly display your affluence or bank
credit ratings. If she is looking at your purse, there is hardly
any point in continuing with this relationship. Even if she
reminds you of Angelina Jolie. Let her look up "Gold Digger's
Monthly". What are you doing there?
* Start screening those "typical" date questions that show no
creativity or originality. Also, if by any way, you give her the
impression as to your ultimate aim: "Ok, have coffee,
afterwards, let's have sex", you will make sure you are showing
her the quick way to make an exit.
* Avoid any talk that connects to sex in some way or the other.
Even admiring a "sexy" picture fall under this category. Of
course, if she broaches the topic, that's a different issue.
Some men think that by discussing such "sexual" topics, he is
sending her "feelers". That by this way he will know whether she
is "on", even for a one nighter. (See the Sexual Reversal
Strategy below.)
* Regarding family issues, talk only in general terms and speak
well of everyone. There is enough time left in future, when both
of you can exchange notes on how horrible some of the family
issues are!
And to mention the last but never the least important issue to
avoid: Do not boast and become an "I" specialist! Keep the
stories of your conquering the world and winning almost all
battles in life to yourself please. I have heard many women
complain about this fact - that if they start a topic, any topic
for that matter, men instantly pick up a cue from there and
start narrating their tales of victory and triumph. Women are,
by nature, a slightly unassertive lot, when it comes to
conversation with men. Men like demarcating their territory,
stake their claims and establish their own domain and while
talking, take the woman to be just another man and rattle off.
Unfortunately, they don't realize that these things do not
improve his ratings with her - what does is the self-confidence
that arises out of well-practiced self-discipline manifested
when he shuts up! There is no other alternative to practicing
"restraint", in speech and action, when it comes to impressing a
woman.