Is your spouse, your teenager or your boss pushing your buttons? It doesn't have to be that way. You can become the master of your love relationships, work relationships and family relationships. You can bring out the best in others as well as in yourself, and enjoy healthy relationships. All you have to do is to get to know your archetypes and understand theirs.

Did you know that how you think, feel and relate to others is programmed by patterns you automatically picked up as a baby? These patterns consciously, subconsciously and unconsciously either bless or block every area of life.

The best way to understand why you do what you do in relationships, and why other people do what they do is to get to know your automatic coping patterns. These patterns are best described through four archetypes, that play out in loving and unloving ways.

The Loving Father: protection, direction, discipline, conditional love

The Loved Boychild: courage, adventure, heroism, enterprise, loyalty, honor, patriotism

The Loving Mother: nurturing, guiding, teaching, explaining, unconditional love

The Loved Girlchild: caring, finesse, beauty, intuition, mysticism

All of the problems in our lives originate from an imbalance, a clogging, or a distortion of these qualities.

Unloving Father: the tyrant, the critic and the controller

Unloving Mother: abandoning, spoiling or aloof

Unloved Boychild: the rebel and the bully

Unloved Girlchild: the victim, martyr, and soap-opera queen

In 1990, psychologist Caroline Hanstke and Brian Emmanuel Grey discovered that we filter life through these four universal energies. Once you can "read" these archetypes, you can change your circumstances and enjoy healthy relationships. It's like pressing the "reveal codes" on an old IBM computer. You tune into the underlying energy as to why people think, feel or behave the way they do. Then you learn to speak the same energetic language, so that your relationship problems can fade away.

Whether you are looking for marriage counseling or relationship counseling, dating advice, customer relationship management, parenting tips, anger management or spiritual healing, understanding and working with your archetypes is the first step to wholeness.

Your archetypes consciously, subconsciously and unconsciously either bless or block every area of life. Once you understand your pattern, you can unlock your hidden potential to be your best self. You can break free from self-sabotaging habits you may not even be aware of. You can