It is two days before my 31st birthday. When I was younger, I used to have these clear ideas of what my life would be like once I reached certain ages. I thought I would get the perfect job and fabulous career right out of college at age 21. I thought I would be married at 21, because when I was younger I thought that was sooo old. Even as I got in my late teens, I thought 26 was the perfect age and so much would go on at that age. After all,