In this sequence of articles we have been exploring a number of new and effective techniques in past life regression (PLR) therapy. These techniques, which I have developed over 25 years of specialization in PLR work, include healing trauma from past lives, contacting creative abilities, and in our last article, clearing the karma from past lives. Today we will address healing troubled relationships that are the result of past life contracts.

According to many PLR researchers, most of us maintain relationships across a number of sequential lives. Some even claim that souls travel in family groups in which ones father in one life may be a son or daughter in another. Since we often choose similar facial features from one life to another, it's not unusual according to this theory to meet a number of people in our lives who in our first meeting seem strangely familiar. This is an aspect of the familiar deja vu experience. I recall once when I first moved to California, seeing a stranger and having the distinct impression that I had known her before and even been married to her. Too embarrassed to approach her, I looked away. Minutes later she approached me and asked where we had known each other. I said I wasn't sure, but I felt we had been married. She replied: "I know!" I could give many similar examples from both my personal and professional life. For most of us these experiences are a mere curiosity. But for some people it is of critical importance to discover the nature of these past relationships. That's because sometimes the subconscious memories of this past history interfere with ones present happiness within a relationship. I call these patterns "past life contracts."

Past life contracts are not about some legally defined relationship with a written contract in some cosmic courthouse. Rather, they refer to a pattern of emotional relationship that persists across many lifetimes and affects our present relationship with another person in a very powerful way. One example of such a contract is the so-called soul mate relationship. Two strangers meet. Somehow their eyes and faces seem enormously familiar to each other. I'm not referring to a primarily sexual attraction, though that may be part of the equation. Usually there's a sense of such unique and profound familiarity that sexual attraction if it exists seems somehow secondary to this deep sense of connection. This relationship could be one of deep friendship, siblings, parent-child, even business partnership, although the most common is mates. I know a couple who met each other at a crowded party. Both were with someone else. But when they saw each other, they instantly knew this was "The One" they had been searching for. They have been happily married now for twenty years. During these years, the two of them have explored many lives in which they were together. This type of contract is precious and beautiful, but doesn't usually require PLR therapy. If it isn't broke, don't fix it.

Unfortunately, very few such cosmic connections are so trouble free. And while counseling and therapy can help many couples and families solve their interpersonal issues, the complications that a couple bring to their relationship from their past lives together can rarely be healed without addressing the past life agreements between them. However I have observed that even most trained PLR therapists have no training in the intricacies of this type of work.

There are three elements common to most such connections. First: was there a sense of immediate familiarity, perhaps even a sense of destiny when you first met each other? Sometimes one partner picks it up right away; the other may not get it for awhile. Second: Are you obsessing about this person, feeling unusually needy or attached in some way, even though your needs are not being met? I had one client who obsessed about her ex-husband for twenty years after a tumultuous marriage and ugly divorce, so much that she was unable to imagine herself with another man. Not all contracts are so crippling, but many share a similar energy. Third: Do you find that all the therapy you do, while it is helpful in many ways, seems to have little or no affect on this relationship? If a client answered yes to these questions, I know contract work will make the difference.

The steps involved in examining and changing this contract are very complex. First we give instructions to the client`s subconscious mind under trance to take us to the time when this particular pattern of relationship first began. Every contract begins with a promise made to the other person. That promise may be a spoken one with mutual agreement or simply a silent message we tell ourselves (Ex. "I WILL make her mine!")

To become a Contract, this promise must be followed by years of obsessing about the person and the promise. We examine all of the consequences of this promise and this obsession, sometimes across many lives, so the client can see the total results of this promise. We then have to ask the client's higher self if there is any karmic debt the client owes this other person, or some lesson from them that still needs to be learned. If there is, we need to explore this using the karmic deeds protocol we looked at in the previous article. If not, we are then free to change or end the contract. The next step is to return to the original scene of this promise and change that promise to reflect the client's desire to end or change the relationship. Finally, we can ask the client's partner in present life if they agree to these changes. If the answer is yes, a new relationship is possible with this other person. But, if the answer is no, then we can and must terminate the relationship. If termination is required, the client will usually be surprised at how quickly and effortlessly this is accomplished.

My favorite example is that of a woman who loved her husband of five years very deeply, but couldn't stand his personality. Divorce seemed the logical solution, since he was absolutely unwilling to change. But she simply couldn't imagine leaving him. In a PLR session, she returned to the old southern US. There, as a young and beautiful southern belle, she fell in love behind the barn with a handsome young black slave. In the heat of their forbidden love she promised to love him forever. They shared a dream of someday marrying and escaping together from her plantation life. Reality soon closed in however. She became pregnant, and when a black baby emerged, her father soon guessed the culprit. My client wept as she told me that her beloved was chased down and killed with torches, hounds, and shotguns. She spent the rest of her life pining away for lost love.

That evening she went home to her husband. But she couldn't finish telling him her story. He kept interrupting her, in tears himself, as he remembered his own details of the tragedy. When she told of his being killed, he laughed. "I escaped!" he announced gleefully. "They lied to you! Years later I returned for you, but you had married someone else." Tearfully she replied "Yes, but I never loved anyone but you!"

Only then could the two of them understand a peculiar ritual they had engaged in during their typical white California wedding. He had insisted that they both step over a broom together "the way slaves got married in the old south." (Both of these people were white, and had never been to the south or studied the south - in this life) Once these two had cried through their pain, sharing a passionate and joyous reunion, they realized the craziness of their adolescent dreams. Then they could release each other freely of the marriage which had proven so dysfunctional in 21st Century California.

This is one example of how past life contracts are seen and dissolved. In our next article, we will explore the most powerful past life contract of all. That's the contract between the client and their own higher self made before this incarnation, the key to our soul's purpose in this lifetime, the preconception contract.

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