Many quarrels starts from misunderstandings ,some from incompatibility of personalities, some from emotional games and a few intentionally. Many quarrels can be avoided by the following golden rules.

Rule 1 :Look before you jump

Before starting any quarrel,you should wait for a short time to control your feelings. A composed man can react more reasonably and effectively.If you want you can simulate artificial anger for the effect.

Rule 2: Jump into enemy's Boots before jumping at him.

Think from his position and try to see his emotions and logic. Then you may understand the situation better and may have some other feelings to him than anger.

Rule 3 : Try to avoid the quarrel by talk.

Some times instead of blaming a person,explaining your situation to him may stop a quarrel. This is one of the most important steps.

Rule 4 :Take words in their good sense:

Many times quarrels errupts because of misunderstandings. So make sure that you have not misunderstood or misinterpreted other persons words. Try to find the good things in them.

Rule 5: Try a cut off

It experienced that ignoring the other party and cutting off personal relations for some period saves the day and later paves way for peace of mind. Reduce talks,chatting etc with him,try to become more formal etc. This will reduce the chance of a quarrel.

But if the rules do not avoid a quarrel, then do it in the best way you can.

Kannan Balakrishnan is a budding Author and computer expert.His ideas are now being posted in the blog http://www.kbwrites.blogspot.com He can be contacted for advice and web based business advice at kannanb@post.com