Own Your Ignorance

Dear Zannah,

I have been on dating sites and paid thousands of dollars trying to find Mr. Right and keep coming up empty handed. None of them look like their pictures and the ones I get fixed up with through agencies are just leacherous or broken. Please help me.

Kathleen Rancho Santa Fe

Dear Kathleen

I know this sounds a bit harsh but Take Responsibility for Finding the Love of Your Life! Don't expect someone else to find him for you! Instead learn ways in which you can recognize him yourself. Come to understand how this world of wonder works. Why is it you prefer salty foods to sweet or you're drawn to gold over silver? Why is it big blue eyes make you melt and brown ones go unnoticed? Why is it you prefer the ocean to the forest and a hotel room to camping under the stars? Why is it one guy makes your heart sing and another doesn't? Do you know why? Find out WHY? Not knowing is a sign of ignorance and assigning the task addressing the MOST important selection of your life to a stranger is insane! Still, I have chosen to soften my response to you by simply saying, you are not insane...just poorly informed. Seek answers. They are out there. Once you understand polarity, alchemy, energy and appetite... nothing can stop you from having the MOST amazing love experience of your lifetime... but first YOU must take charge of your love life.

Far too many expectations are placed upon agencies and sites for positive results. They are there to provide a concentrated pool of interest. Most insist that you get informed and take caution in making choices. Placing responsibility upon them is ridiculous. A good agency will provide you with information and education so that when you do meet you have some insight to work with. If you are paying an agency thousands to set you up with three dates and no premise for the selection other than a few common interests...RUN! When you pay a cover at a local club scene or put a donation in the basket at church, do you expect that environment or event to produce a love experience for you just because there are other singles there? I don't think so. The experience we have is what we make it and it rarely means anything if we have no clue as to what we are entering into. The same is true for a relationship event. What we have lost over the last several thousand years, is our ability to access our own common sense. "Sense" being the key word. We know longer can feel, see or hear what is good for us because of the noise around us. Once we regain control of our sensibility or senses, we become powerful love magnets simply because we know what direction to take and WHY we are moving in that direction. Imagine being IN LOVE and knowing why and how you got there? This is where and when you get to revel in the POWER of LOVE.

Thoughtfully, Zannah

Copyright 2005

Zannah Hackett Rev,BAE,MA is today