Are You the Victim of a "complex Equivalence" in Your Relationship?

I've written many times about a controversial piece of relationship advice that I strongly recommend. What is it? I believe it's important to get a women you are trying to attract into bed quickly, no matter what kind of relationship you want to have with her. That sounds "edgy" in this day and age, doesn't it?

After all, most so-called "psychologists" take a different view, claiming that couples who waited to have sex had more successful relationships than those who jumped into bed quickly. Why would I promote a concept so contrary to such orthodox statistics? The flaw with that view is, it doesn't take into account the relationships that never happened because the guy didn't "close the deal" quickly, and she took off looking for a man who would "define authority for her."

What about those couples in the "psychologists" study? Why would those who "waited" be more "successful" than those who didn't? The answer to that question can save you a ton of future pain and heartache in your current or future relationship. Are you ready? Good. Come closer, and listen carefully, because this is important.

The reason the "couples who waited" were more successful than the ones who didn't in thier own relationship, has to do with what's called a "complex equivalence." What's that you say? Simply this: a complex equivalence means that a person takes a set of events and makes them mean something completely different, even though the meaning has nothing to do with reality. Then they take action based on the meaning they created in their heads, not reality.

Let me give you an example-it will make this more clear. A friend of mine told me a story about a couple in a married relationship he knew. It wasn't a good marriage, with the husband always cheating on the wife. She didn't want to leave him, but she wanted the cheating to stop. So, she went off the pill (without telling him) and got pregnant. Her thinking went, "If we have a child, he'll stop cheating on me." Of course this is NOT what happened