Have you ever wondered, "What is wrong with me? I do everything I'm supposed to do and I still end up in unhappy relationships!" I truly understand how you feel!

In the next two minutes, you will discover how you complicate your relationships.

First, who said you had to be in a relationship to feel loved, cherished and to have a good time?

Second, if what you are doing isn't working maybe it's time to try something new and different.

Here's what I propose...stop looking for a relationship and start looking for companionship!

Think about it!

Don't you want someone you can...

• Spend time with
• Who is truly interested in you
• Likes similar activities
• Fits your lifestyle
• And much, much more

...then stop looking for a relationship. When you look for a relationship you focus on expecting something to happen. For example, you get involved with a person hoping it leads to a long-term relationship, marriage and maybe children.

However, when you focus on companionship your future with the person is not important. What's important is, "Are you two compatible enough to do activities with each other."

There are no expectations! Just two people enjoying each others company. When that happens anything and everything is possible.

Take a moment and think about your best friends of the opposite sex! You don't expect anything from them in terms of a relationship. Yet, you thoroughly enjoy spending time with them.

Once you have companionship it can develop into more. Remember, the key is not what it will evolve into but are you enjoying yourself with that person!

That little shift in your thought process will have dramatic life-changing effects.

Let me give you an example. I met a wonderful women about two years ago. We became friends. While I was definitely attracted to her and wanted to have a relationship she wasn't having it. She made it perfectly clear it will be, "just friends."

At first it was difficult to be just friends because I was really into her. Then one day we had a conversation and I realized I was holding myself back by looking for a relationship.

I began to immediately separate and discard the relationship feelings and adopt the companionship feelings. I finally understood, after thirty-five years, I didn't want to be in a relationship. What I was always looking for was companionship...

• Someone to do things with
• Someone to talk with who has similar beliefs and heading in the same direction
• Someone who cared about me
• Someone who took an interest in me and what I do for a living
• Someone who made time for me because they wanted too not because they felt obligated
• Someone willing to give without me having to ask all the time
• And much more

If you're still stuck looking for a relationship, I wish you well and hope everything works out for you.

However, if you're willing to adopt the companionship mindset you will have endless possibilities available to you!

It won't be easy! It took me about six months to make the transition. However, I was ready and looking for a way to improve my life. I am so happy I did!

I could never understand why someone would choose to be with his/herself! Now I know!

Do yourself a favor and stop settling for unhappy relationships and improve your love life. Try making the shift to companionship and see what happens! What do you have to lose?

Shawn Nelson, MSA is a Motivational Speaker, Life Counselor/Coach and Author who creates guides, e-Courses and run several web sites that help people achieve their relationship, personal, life and professional goals. To learn more visit the Relationship Mistakes and Unhappy Relationships web site today!