You know the story. You met your soul-mate and he was oozing with charm and appeal. He supported you emotionally, psychologically, and helped do the dishes, too. He was interested in your life - your mind, soul, and body! So you married him, knowing that paradise was only a ceremony away.

Oops. Now he comes home too exhausted to deal with anything more than a sitcom. Meanwhile, your day has been full of child-chatter, chores, and a myriad of thankless tasks that you're hoping, maybe today, you'll be appreciated for doing! Yikes. He's still there on the couch. Not a "thank you" to be heard.

Storming through dinner preparation, you rattle pots and slam cabinets. You complain through your children with statements like, "I don't know when dinner will be ready. Why don't you ask His Majesty when he would like to be served?"

Even though he pretends not to hear, he does. Even though you hope your children are too young to catch your sarcasm, they aren't. By the time your family sits down to eat, there's enough tension in the air to smother the whole lot of you.

You also know how this whole wretched pattern started. Like it or not, you're partly to blame. Remember thinking that paradise was a ceremony away? Your illusion set you up for disappointment. There is no one person, not even a soul-mate, who can be everything that you need them to be.

Your other-half did not let up on his end of the marriage bargain. Your husband cannot be someone he isn't, as much as he loves you. He wants to support you, he wants to be your knight in shining armor