"Nag, nag, nag." - Clint Eastwood

It's common knowledge that no one likes to be nagged.

But did you know that nagging is really no fun either?

This surprises most people. The spouse that is nagged thinks thinks the nagger stays up late planning ways to nag the next day. The teenager thinks the parents get together and create new ways and subjects on which to nag.

The whole cycle and pattern of nagging is painful for both people. It's painful for both is because nagging always results in distance between two people.

How to stop the nagging pattern

I've rarely seen a situation where one person was being accused of nagging where the other person was not being irresponsible in some way.

Nagging is no fun, for the nag-ee or for the nag-er. It takes two people working together to stop the pattern, one to be responsible, and then one to not nag.

If you are being nagged, then you need to check out and see if there are areas in which you are being irresponsible in some way.

Find the area, clean it up, and there will be no need for nagging.

After the nag-ger gets off the floor from falling over in shock, it may take a bit before they get it that they no longer have to nag. Give it a bit a time, the nagging will end.

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