Unfortunately, most of us
live in our thoughts and our feelings about these thoughts assuming
that this is a natural thing to do. We also assume that everyone else
understands what we understand. If it's true for us - it must be true
for everyone else as well. Or at least they should be able to see the
reasonableness of our arguments and, with enough persuasion, come
around to our way of thinking. There is nothing more aggravating then
being faced with someone who refuses to see logic. However, logic is
mostly our beliefs and convictions which are not influential to others
in and of themselves. Many people spend a great deal of time attempting
to 'convert' others to their particular doctrines and dogmas without
realizing that they themselves have become imprisoned in their own
convictions. It is human nature to try and help others. We want to
'save people' and help them 'see the light'. I believe this is
putting the cart before the horse.
If we really want to help others, we should seek to accept them as they
are without the need to change them in any way. Let go of wanting to
explain and convince and simply allow people to be. We hold on to our
opinions and forget that we are holding on to them. Ask yourself what
the world would be like if everyone agreed on everything. It would be
an extremely tedious and boring place to live. There are many who
believe that we should shake people out of their complacency and wake
them up to the "truth". They believe that, unless people come around to
their way of seeing things, the very existence of our species is at
risk. I call these people "merchants of chaos". All you need to do is
watch the nightly news to see them at work. Dire reports of calamity
and catastrophe are everywhere. I'm in no way suggesting that there
isn't cause for concern but I am suggesting that the only way that we
can actually do anything about the way things are (and, for that
matter, about our business or our life) is when we have gained our own
freedom and clarity about life. It is said that what we resist -
persists. By insisting that something must be done about (fill in your
favorite cause here) and that people must change their ways, we give
that problem more power. It is our choice to hold on to this feeling of
opposition as long as we desire but, perhaps by allowing the resistance
to melt away, we are more able to be active rather than reactive in our
lives. Choose to let it go. When you find yourself arguing for your
cause and meeting with resistance from others, choose to turn off the
impulse to persuade them and try to accept them as they are. It isn't
easy. In fact, it can be downright impossible at times to accept that;
what we perceive as utter stupidity; is someone else's reality. But
what we stand to gain by the acceptance of someone else's reality is a
clearer understanding of what motivates them to act as they do. Without
this understanding, we breed more friction and antagonism and
accomplish little. The paradox is that if we want to change things for
the better, we must start by not trying to change anything and
acknowledge that things are as they are for reasons we may not yet
fully understand or agree with but can learn to accept. Read more at
http://entropy.blogsource.com/
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