The Law of Two Questions

There are two questions that couples must ask and answer:

1. What do I want?

2. How do I help you get what you want?

Regularly asking these questions can contribute to some fairly powerful teamwork and a constant sense of connection.

Imagine what it would feel like to have someone close to you who knows what you want out of life and is committed to helping you get it.

The Law of Conflict, Part 1

Much conflict is the result of failing to ask one or both of the above questions. Also, an over emphasis on either one of these two questions above can lead to trouble as well.

The Law of Conflict, Part 2

Conflict is simply an inevitable part of being with someone. Living with another human being can be messy at best.

One problem is that most of us go into marriage so terribly unprepared to handle the conflicts that inevitably arise. All relationships have conflicts, it's how you handle them that makes all the difference.

The Law of Fighting

While conflict is inevitable, fighting is not. It's always a choice. The choice involves deciding that being right or getting your way is more important than the relationship.

The Law of Driving

Here's a law that could improve, perhaps even save many marriages:

Please don't drive while I