We have been conditioned to be the alpha male, to know what we want, to be the hunter, the provider, to have the answers, to be strong and tough. No wonder we cause so much trouble in our love life. The truth is men have three powerful, dynamic forces at work inside themselves. Most of us will never admit it, not me of course, but the majority of us, when it comes to the woman we love, are marshmallows. The trouble we have trying to figure out whether we love the woman we are with is because we have a very difficult time understanding and differentiating what each of these forces are trying to tell us.

The Head

The head is that computer in our brain that controls so much of what we do. It is the logical and practical voice that speaks to us. It is the chatterbox that creates expectations and tells us what to think, how to rationalize, how to judge, how to act, what to like and don