About 6 weeks ago I met a very nice man at a singles function. Using the skills I teach in Soulmate Success Training, I found out quickly that he is a passionate skier, likes smooth jazz, and good wines. I love all those things and so I made sure he had my phone number. We went out once or twice a week for several weeks and always had a great time. Joe is sensual, kind and considerate, and showed that he really cares about the welfare of others as well as respecting himself. He dances beautifully and is affectionate. Yet as the weeks went on, I noticed that he seemed distant.

Whenever I brought up something of a more personal nature, Joe would change the subject or say nothing. He had mentioned that he had been married once when he was very young and it ended after 8 years. That was about all the detail he gave. When I would try and share how I felt about something or even how I felt about him, I could feel him withdraw. When I asked him how he felt about a particular subject, he would not answer directly and instead retell a funny story of something that happened at work. I began to realize that maybe the reason Joe had been single since his marriage ended nearly 20 years ago, was not that he didn