How many times in your past can you recall getting upset with someone, this then turned into an argument and you left with nothing resolved? It is natural to want to express your thoughts and concerns when you feel wronged. However, it is less natural to genuinely listen to the other person's point of view. Practicing healthy communication and listening skills is vital in all relationships. It takes practice to stop and listen when all you want is to get your point across. Everyone wants to be heard, genuinely heard, when expressing feelings. When you approach someone from the "I" standpoint instead of the "you" standpoint, it changes the dynamic completely. Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings and this will lessen the likelihood of defenses going up. Start today by creating relationships built on respect for one another. Again, it is ok and completely valid to be upset with someone, the way you approach the situation can make a huge difference in the outcome.

ACTION STEPS FOR THE WEEK:

1. Make a list

Make a list of all the people you would like to improve your relationships with. Take ownership and responsibility for what you bring to the relationship. Instead of the "blame game", try approaching the situation with an open mind resulting in a solution as the end result.

2. Stop and listen

Next time you get upset with someone, be prepared to stop and really listen to what they have to say. Before jumping the gun and overreacting, take a deep breath and prepare how you want to approach the situation. Envision the end result in a positive manner with both parties being able to express everything without blame. This week practice the art of really listening. Take time to stop and really hear what the other person has to say.

3. Remember how it feels

Remember how it feels when you've been genuinely heard and understood? It is difficult to get upset when you feel understood, when there is little blame and more understanding of each other's point of view. Keep this in focus this week!

Have a great week!

Leslie Gail, Certified Coach and owner of New Life Focus Coaching www.newlifefocus.com "Closing the gap between where you are in your life today vs where you want to be in your life in the future"(303)779-0731 FREE CONSULTS FOR NEW CLIENTS

Leslie Gail is a Certified Life Coach and owner of New Life Focus coaching. Leslie contributes a regular column to The Rocky Mountain News newspaper, she holds seminars and hosts a tv segment coaching people to success. Contact Leslie for a FREE coaching consult at 1-866-779-0731