It doesn't matter if he's a
potential wife beater or has latent schizoid tendencies or she's a terrible nag
or wants to live in the country when you are a real
townie. Your genes don't take personality into account. They
are on a one track mission to get you to have sex and reproduce.
It all started with some rather interesting experiments on mice...
Minnie wasn't drawn to Mickey beause he was a fun loving little ball of fur
with good prospects and a loving nature, but because his genes were very
different from hers.
Scientific experiments have proved that, if your genes are different from his
or hers, and he or she has a certain look, you'll be driven crazy with
lust.
After experimenting with mice, they did some tests on humans with surprising
results. They selected a number of women and men who had both similar
and different genetic MHC genes [that stands for major histocompatibility
complex]. MHC genes check out protein markers on cells and help the body
recognise hostile organisms This sets off the immune system.
If someone mates with a person whose MHC genes are differen from theirs,
the offspring will get a double dose of hostile organism checkers.. That means
their kids will have a better chance at resisting disease.
The testers asked a number men to wear brand new t-shirts for two days
and nights, never taking it off. They were not allowed to use anything on their
skins that had any kind of scent. They wanted them to get naturally
whiffy.
Women in the test were then given six t-shirts. Three of them were from men
who had similar MHC genes and the other three from men whose MHC's were very
different from theirs.
The results showed that the women were more attracted to the scent of
the guys who had different MHC genes from their
own.
The interesting thing is that women taking the birth control pill, which
makes the body think it's pregnant, preferred the scent of men who had similar
MHC genes to their own.
Some scientists reckon that this is because a pregnant woman doesn't want
attract men to mate with during pregnancy, but is more drawn to men/women
who are family members i.e. with similar gene-induced odours! This has
something to do with a desire to find protection and care from within the family.
This research suggests that attraction isn't just some unexplained 'love at
first sight' thing, but rather the immune system doing what's best for the
future progeny - going for a guy or girl whose genes combined with his or her
own will give their kids a stronger immune system,
Of course in humans it's not just a matter of whether he or she
smells right, because there are other factors that determine whom we fancy or
not.
Have you noticed how some couples look like each other? Think about this.
Most of us hold a physical attraction template based on the features of our
opposite sex parent. If we look like the opposite sex parent, then chances
are we'll end up with a mate who looks like us.
If we look like the same sex parent but very dissimilar to our opposite sex
parent, and we're attracted to someone who looks like our opposite sex parent
that person may look quite different from us! So nature has provided
us with a simple formula for attraction
He or she's gotta smell 'right' and have some of the features of our mum
or dad.
Now that's all well and good for primitive beings who don't care about
personality traits or social status. These things are
important to evolved human beings. That's where the
problems start.
Those whiffy genes are pretty powerful and combined with the 'attraction
template' they are going to kick off a huge surge of 'lust hormones'. Our body
produces these hormones to make us want to have sex. This is
determined by the programming in our DNA that says 'REPRODUCE'.
The 'lust hormones' are so strong that they often override every ounce of
common sense. While our bodies are overflowing with desire, our brains are
unable to make rational decisions. That's why it's called love
sickness!
So when those long term couples who claim to have fallen in love at first
sight claim 'I just knew', they didn't. Their >genes
knew they'd make strong kids with that person and they'd been programmed to
fancy the way that person looks. It's pure chance that on top of the
genetic and physical compatibility, they also have matched personalities.
And of course we NEVER hear about those couples who had a gene and looks
match but didn't quite work out so we assume that there is a magical syndrome
that we call 'love at first sight'.
Next time you're irresistibly drawn to someone, tell yourself to wait at
least one year before making any major decisions. It can take anything
from up to six months to two years or more the lust hormones to die
down and the pink clouds of 'perfection' to fade away.
Give your brain an opportunity to check out all the stuff that
we should be aware of before committing ourselves to marriage, buying a
home or even more important the decision to make babies.
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TESTIMONIAL!
"Peta is a dynamic energetic and inspirational teacher. I would recommend this
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environment. Lorraine C Clinical
Psychologist"
TESTIMONIAL! Thank you for a fantastic and fun time this weekend. I really enjoyed the playshop I got so much from this weekend like learning to shut up the self conversation in my head - the- importance of longer eye contact - - reading signals for space and how small they can be (I've always been looking for big things) Being in the now/body so the observations can be taken in rather than listening to the chit-chat - - and above all knowing how I am when I'm being at my best. Steve Nichols
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