Once you've been hired to do a job, particularly if it's a well paid and/or high-flying job, you're supposed to know everything, be able to handle everything with ease, deal with other people's problems and in general be super-person. Right? Well, not exactly.

There are loads of people who get hired for, or promoted to, really good jobs because of the skills and capabilities they have demonstrated. Yet six months later they are floundering and don't appear to be up to it all.

You may be one of those people.

It's not unusual for people, even at the beginning of their careers, to feel they are supposed to know more and be able to do more than they are currently able to. A common and recurrent nightmare is the feeling that somehow they will be 'found out' as not being up to the job and thrown out on their ear.

What can get left out when people are hired for a job - wherever they are on the career ladder - is that they will need some form of guidance and support along the way. Some companies know this and part of their employee care is to have a coaching and/or mentoring programme in place. Unfortunately, many do not.

For people who do work for such a company, it may feel uncomfortable or embarrassing asking for support internally, and so they go without. This is where the 'I should know it all already' belief kicks in, and the offers of coaching or mentoring go unheeded because:

"I'll look weak."

"I won't want people to know I've asked for help."

"My staff won't respect me if they know I'm seeing someone."

"It's counselling isn't it