At the time when I first met David Quigley, fighting, abuse, and pain wracked my home and family. I was on the verge of getting a separation from my husband, and at the same time I felt that I was destroying my family, my home and everything that we had both worked so hard to accomplish for so many years. It was very painful to say the least, but it was becoming my reality. Worse yet is facing the fact that your partner is not the only monster in the house, but that you too have a share in the blame.

This was the time when I began to realize that we needed professional help, as many couples do. My husband and I decided to get that help. Two different doctors diagnosed my husband with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder: the result of a very sad accident that he had when he was only 13 years old. I had suspected all along that this incident was the core cause of his many "bad mornings", his verbally abusive behavior and his explosive outbursts of anger and rage.

Now my question was, what lies at the core of all of my frustrations and craziness? Was it the fact that I had been molested as a child? Was I only reacting in response to my husband