At this time of year, everyone is discussing making changes in their lives. Real change is not easy becuase we want results, and we want them fast. It is important to know that external changes require internal changes. Without the essential elements, change can be a time consuming, frustrating and disheartening process. However, if we understand what it takes to effect change in our lives, we can set ourselves up for success by choosing goals according to our spiritual nees and values!

Why is change so difficult? In order to answer this question, we must look into human nature a bit more deeply. First, humans are creatures of habit and are generally resistant to new ways of thinking about and/or doing things. When looking to make change in our lives we must create internal shifts in thinking and believing before external results can be visible. Meditating is a useful tool to help us clear our minds of clutter and get to the heart of why we want to make changes.

Second, the process of change requires time, patience, and discipline. On average it takes about six weeks to form a new habit. Given the fast paced nature of our daily lives and our need for immediate gratification, six weeks may feel like six years. We may end up asking ourselves questions that cause doubt and derail our efforts. As a result, we abandon our goals prematurely.

Third, three essential elements must be present: 1) vision 2) perseverance 3) motivation. Maintaining vision, perseverance, and motivation is not easy because along the journey of change we encounter obstacles both internal and external. These obstacles serve to test our resolve. Such obstacles include: fear, denial, procrastination, rationalization, blame and submission to external influence (ie the friend who insists that one dessert will not make a difference to your diet goals). If our vision or motivation is not aligned with our spirit and values, we are bound to fall into traps.

Fourth, this process of change requires support. If we want to be successful, we should not go it alone. It is important to get the right amount of support as well as the right kind of support during this time. The bigger the goal, the more support is required. Sometimes the difference between success or failure is the kind of support one receives. Having that special person to speak with during times of ambivalence or doubt will remind us why we set the goal in the first place and how far we have come. With this support, we will have a renewed sense of faith and resolve; thereby bringing us closer to attaining your goal.

Although change can be uncomfortable and difficult, the pay off is worth it. By understanding the process of change and engaging our spirits, we can apply the necessary elements to our process in order to learn and grow.

Peggy Tsatsoulis, MA CAGS- is a highly sought after Professional Life Coach and Certified Psychologist with over ten years of experience. She has been dedicated to working with individuals to improve the quality of their lives, and her focus has been on bringing out the best in others. For more information and resources, or to sign up for a free consultation please visit http://www.simplycoaching.net.