In recent articles on relationships, their challenges and their triumphs I have discussed how one's one personal history of trauma:

1. Reduces one's self esteem, self worth, self confidence.

2. Impairs one's ability to be open, honest and relaxed with their partner.

3. Leads to a relationship based on neediness and codependence.

4. Blocks real intimacy from developing naturally.

5. Creates misperceptions of the other's behavior that then leads to unnecessary conflict which undermines the relationship further.

One thing that I haven