The experts often, quite rightly, state that our goals and dreams should be our own and not those of any one else. I had an email today suggesting this very thing. It said roughly:

"If you don't clarify your dreams and set goals someone else will do it for you! You will either follow your own road this year or the road of others around you who will draw you into their dream."

Normally I would agree with this kind of statement but sometimes we love another person so much that their dreams successfully become our own.

An example of this was described in the program "Living in the Sun" shown on BBC 1 on Monday 16th January 2006.

In 2005, Anil Patel, a restaurant owner from the UK, went to Spain to Alicante on the Costa Blanca to open an Indian Restaurant to fulfil his dead wife's dream.

She had held the dream of an Indian Restaurant on the Spanish coast but had sadly been unable to fulfil the dream in her lifetime. However, her desire for this restaurant had lived on in the mind of her husband.

Fulfilling the dreams of a dead person can give some relief to those who are still living. It keeps the memory of the dead person alive and is one way for the bereaved to feel that they are still doing something on behalf of the departed one.

Anil's family and friends supported him with an