A Little Goes a Long Way

Relationships and marriages are seldom easy all the time. No matter how perfect a relationship is, your and your partner are bound to hit some bumps, or long stretches where you have trouble of some kind. If you meet a couple that seems to have no problems getting along, it could be that they discovered a simple little secret early in their relationship. Simply, show love and affecting in tons of little ways, and don't save it for just those big times when things are going badly, or you need to apologize for something major.

On your way home, why not stop and pick some wildflowers for your wife (or girlfriend if you're not married) from the side of the road. Maybe she had a hard day at work, maybe the kids have been driving her nuts, or perhaps you've both been a little less intimate recently. Picture it now, she's at home frazzled and expecting you to come in, and then you arrive with a big bunch of wildflowers you picked JUST FOR HER; you will have made her day no matter how bad (or good) it had been. It's like a second chance to start fresh with one small, yet powerful gesture.

If your spouse spending a lot of time out of town, or feeling like those proverbial 'ships passing in the night' because of work, kids or other commitments, give this a try. Find a sun catcher, charm or porcelain figure in the shape of a star, wrap it in a small gift box and place a small note on it that says "Wish I were there." and slip in into their suitcase, briefcase or even purse. When he or she finds it and knows you miss them, but thought enough to share that simple thought, it will re-awaken those deep emotions.

Try making small, simple changes in your tired routines to inspire some fresh intimacy. It won't require as much effort as you think. Put a Post-It note on the TV that says "Wouldn't you rather turn me on?" with saucy signature. If your partner is reading a book, sneak out the bookmark and replace it with a note like "Guess where I hid your bookmark?"

When you first got together as a couple you likely did lots of small things that would make your eyes twinkle and heart flutter, do them again! If you're out for a walk, shopping or just watching TV together, be intimate. Hold hands, link arms, or just slip your arm around her. Whisper something sweet and sultry into her ear and just gaze lovingly into her eyes. If she looks at you suspiciously or asks what you