Hot Dating Tip #22: Be slow.

Women like a slow build-up. Take your time.

If all you are looking for is casual sex and you don't much care whether or not she has a brain or a personality, then stuff about 'shared values' and 'compatibility' will not be of any great interest.

But if you are looking for something a bit more serious and long-term, take your time getting to know her before getting into boyfriend-girlfriend behaviour.

Women like to be wooed, not jumped on. They like to get to know you and trust you before getting down and dirty. By skilful use of certain NLP-style rapport techniques, you can help her to have that feeling of knowing and trusting you pretty quickly, but you do need to put in the hours developing those skills - like anything worthwhile.

Once you have developed a comfortable connection, create some space. Back off. Give her room to move towards you. If she's really interested, she will. Like a magnet.

Same goes for sex. Take it slow. Don't be in a hurry to start or to finish. Women take longer to get aroused than men, but once they are up there they can stay hot for way longer than most men can.

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