Are you divorced, or getting ready to be divorced? Does your Ex call you more often than he or she used to? Are they acting like they want to get back together? Do you feel like you were just starting to move on with your new life when suddenly you are being pulled back into your old one?

According to my emails and letters from readers, interaction with the Ex is the number one stressor in their lives.

This is an understandable situation. It's hard to handle all these emotions from the past when you are alone. Especially around the holidays when there are children involved. Other dynamics that come into play, causing an Ex to want to get back together, are when the new relationship gets old, and when the old wife (or husband) starts to get a new life.

This is my experience with reconciliation: unless BOTH parties go to counseling, the getting back together usually doesn