What Your Daydreams Reveal
Let's take the most common type of daydream first: worry. We all know this one on a first name basis. Your loved one is 15 minutes late and your thoughts run to negativity like a moth to light. If he or she were an hour late, anyone would be concerned, but if 15 minutes is all it takes to call out the negativity patrol, it would pay to take a closer look at yourself and why this is so.
Does the above scenario sound a little too familiar to you? If it does, I would almost bet that you've experienced a tragedy in your life that really hit close to home, one that was completely unexpected. Actually, if 15 minutes is an accurate measure, it's safe to say you've endured more than one such disaster. Nothing can bring about insecurities about your present and future quite like your past. (Once bitten, twice shy = once hurt, twice cautious). Sometimes just realizing this will quiet the fears and negative thoughts.
Next time the 15 minute mark hits (or any trigger, for that matter), tell your subconcious that you know why it's "going there" and then replace the negative, worrisome thoughts with positive ones. Focus on how great it'll be, for example, when he/she does show up!
If you tend to spend a lot of time daydreaming about far away places, you may need a change of scenery. People tend to fantasize a lot about beaches, especially in the winter - but before you call for a U-Haul, realize that you probably just need to mix things up a little. Sometimes a trip to a nearby town will do the trick. (Take it from someone who lived on the beach, even beachcombers fantasize about far away places - snowy mountains and houses with fireplaces are just as enticing!)
Do you tend to think really negative thoughts, just out of the blue? For example, while doing a household chore, do you start imagining worst-case-scenarios? If you answer in the affirmative, you're to be commended for realizing it and owning up to it. You certainly aren't alone! This type of daydream indicates that something is missing in your life. While you probably aren't full-fledged depressed (which could be treated with a trip to the doctor), there is something that you're not getting. Whether it's enough attention or love from your loved ones or appreciation for what you do, there are negative forces around you and they're manifesting themselves in your thoughts. Sometimes it's as simple as feeling bad about yourself: feeling old, unattractive, overweight, etc.
When things are going well, most of a person's thoughts will be positive. When they aren't going well, the opposite is true. Have a heart to mind talk with yourself and see where the negativity is coming from, then do what you can to remove it. If the talk points to feelings of self-depreciation, do something about it - get a new hairstyle, color your hair, change make-up, get a new top, get in shape....whatever it takes to make you feel better about you.
If the talk indicates that the problems stem from someone else, it's not quite as simple, but it's also very manageable. Simply talk to those around you. Not confrontationally, of course. Just open the lines of communication up.
Another common daydream is one of grandeur. We either save a life, shoot below par, look like a child spawned by Rita Hayworth and Rock Hudson, or tell our boss off in spades (or all four on a really good day). They're harmless little escapes from the toils and troubles of daily lives. The biggest difference between these daydreams and the first ones is the fact that they are positive. You're focusing positive energy as opposed to negative energy - and that's always a very good thing. It's so much more healthy for your mind and even body.
You must be cautious, however, not to live in these sorts of daydreams. It's sort of like the ESCAPE key on your keyboard. It's absolutely necassary sometimes, but where would you get if you kept one finger on it at all times? Not far!
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