After being in a relationship,and having been hurt,I stayed out of relationships for a long time.

Because I was too scared of being hurt again. But it took me 20 years to realize that, and I found out that I was only hurting myself.

So the first thing that I had to do, was to make saw that I knew how to handle being on the relationship roller coaster. It was to find out who I was and what was stopping me from finding the perfect person to share the rest of my life with.

I went and started to go to many self development courses and started to have a look at myself, and find out what was stopping me from finding the right person to share my life with. Why I had hidden away in many different parts of the world?

Doing the self development on myself gave me the chance to correct many things that had stopped me from going out and having the loving relationships that I so much wanted. Things that were stopping me like: lack of self confidence or belief in myself - believing that I was not good enough. Believing that there was no one that would accept me for who I am.

These were all negative thoughts that I had in my head which played on my mind and stopped me from having a relationship for so long. But after going to some self development courses, meeting many positive people and learning how to deal with all the negative thoughts that were programmed in my head, and learn how to turn them into positive thoughts, that is when everything started to change.

You see, to have a great relationship, it all starts in your mind. You will only attract what you focus on. So make sure that you are positive in all your thoughts about your self. That Is what I did, and then the wheels of relationships started to roll

After I had got my mind sorted out and had got my confidence back and the strong inner belief that I was good enough for any girl out there and now knew what kind of girl I was looking for, I now knew that I wanted to get back into finding that some one special.

I had to seek some help from the experts. And because I was still working away in the bush, I never had time when I got back into town to spend sitting at bars trying to chat some one up and I was never one to find that some one special in the pub scene.

I went and signed up at a dating agency and they did all the hard work for me for a fee (of course!). When I came back to town I had some dates all ready booked. At first, this seemed ok but as time went by, I realised that this idea was not going to work for me.

You see, to build a strong relationship, you have to have strong foundations. Working away for 4 weeks at a time did not give us much of a chance to build a solid relationship, so something had to change. I decided that I was either going to stay single or I had to change the environment that I was living in which was stopping me finding that some one special to share my life with.

In the end, I chose to change my environment, and moved back to the city. This gave me so many more opportunities to expand my options and I also had access to the internet, which I had never used before.

So now that I had more time and I could explore a lot more options that had opened up for me and got to see many singles sites on the net. One of the first I used was www.rsvp.com.au , which is a very good site that I personally have had some great luck on. It is free to register on, and you can browse through the profiles of the people on there to see if you like anyone. With them, you only pay per email sent if you want to get in contact with someone. Other singles/dating sites have slightly different fee models. Just check them out to see what suits you.

I found that even though I had my profile up on RSVP, nothing seemed to be happening