Do you know the most effective way to get a date? Would you like to know how your family and friends can help you find a lasting love and relationship? You can teach them how to become your scouts...and network for you.

American Demographics did an online poll a few years ago of 1500 people. They asked them how they met their current love. Sixty-five percent said they met through family and friends.

To successfully turn your friends into friendly scouts, follow the steps below:

*Make a list of the people you know.

Put everyone on the list, even though you may not ask them to scout for you. In the process of making this list, you may remember who you forgot. List everyone.

*Arrange to meet with 10 of the people individually.

Take them to coffee or lunch. (Yes, you are going to be very busy...but it's worth it.) Tell them what you want. Tell them that you are ready to meet someone and you wonder if they know anyone suitable: someone who is kind, interesting, and successful at what they do. Do not get specific about qualities that are not important. (Hair color, eye color, and height are irrelevant compared to someone's humor, success, and compassion.) Stay open-minded about age, weight, and educational background also.

*You must ask people to fix you up because unless you ask...they won't.

You must ASK people to help you scout. The first thing they will probably say is,