A Victim No More: Freeing Yourself to Live a Fulfilled Life

The self-help psychology movement has provided hundreds of thousands - if not millions - of people with the tools they need for healing their body, mind, and spirit. On the whole, these tools are wonderful and bring those who implement them a sense of purpose and fulfillment. There are some aspects of the personal-growth movement, however, that can lead down a path of disempowerment. The most notable aspect is the label of "victim." Once a person assumes that label and identifies herself or himself as a victim, it's virtually assured that she or he will not experience their full human potential. Indeed, it's only by making the decision that you will be a victim no more that you can truly be free.

That's because, when you label yourself a victim, you are giving your personal power away to the person or entity that victimized you. Words are very powerful, and defining yourself as a victim - whether it's a victim of domestic abuse, a victim of an eating-disorder like bulimia, anorexia, or obesity, or a victim of childhood abuse - gives your personal power to the person or people who wronged you.

When you take responsibility for your life and your actions, you are a victim no more; instead, you can stand in your own power and direct your own life. This doesn't mean that the bad things that have happened to you are your fault, but it does mean that your personhood and your life are not defined by a single event.

Labeling yourself a victim often leads to self-judgment, and to a life of loneliness and isolation. When you move away from identifying as a victim and instead choose to identify as a survivor who takes responsibility for her or his life, you open doors that were previously closed to you. Instead of seeing dead ends, you begin to see possibilities. You begin to entertain thoughts of taking center stage in your own life and determining your own destiny.

When you shed the label of victim, you can begin to acknowledge your value as a human being. People who have value take responsibility for every arena of their lives, including their relationships, their careers, and their personal appearance. It may seem like being a victim is easier than taking responsibility, but the truth is that being a victim keeps you prisoner. Being a victim no more, on the other hand, sets you free.

Chris Robertson is an author of Majon International, one of the worlds MOST popular internet marketing companies on the web. Learn more about A Victim No More or Majon's Health and Beauty directory.