In a recent article entitled "Ten Steps To An Ideal Relationship" I noted Step 3 as the importance of nurturing self awareness.

It is only through self awareness that you will be able to achieve mastery over your own thoughts, emotions, perceptions and behaviors. Anything less means that you are not fully in control of yourself and are vulnerable to making bad choices.

But what is self awareness really?

Well simply it means to be conscious of and therefore fully in charge of all the choices one makes. Do you think you are fully in charge of all of your choices? If you were then why is it that you ever feel sadness or pain in your life?

Is that what you truly desire for yourself? I doubt it!

So you see it's as if there is something else within you that is directing your attention, mind and body to places that are not good for you. An obvious example is all those "bad habits" you find yourself mired in.

Why is this happening and is it even normal?

Well to answer the second part first: No!

To answer the first part: it is the result of all the conditioned ways of being that you have absorbed within your mind and body from the time you were born.

I think you know that when you are learning to drive a car that you need to pay a great deal of attention to everything you are doing but that after a while all of that learning becomes "automatic" so that driving then becomes and effortless experience.

Well what has happened here is that your brain and body have become neurologically wired with those "driving programs" and now they can be brought into action without much thought.

Unfortunately the same thing happens at a social and behavioral level when you are a child and too young to know it is happening to you. You become literally "programmed" with beliefs, emotions, a self identity, and behaviors etc that do not necessarily serve you later on.

What's more unless you do something about them they can become triggered into action without your permission. In other words you and your life have been hijacked in a manner of speaking.

It's no wonder most individuals have trials and tribulations in life. It's because they are not at the wheel.

If you would like to reclaim control of your mind, body and life and stand a chance of ever having a successful relationship kindly visit the web link below and we'll start working on building your level of self awareness.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called "Spirituality And Science" (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of "Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation" (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

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