Divorce can cause a number of very radical changes in many people. Recently a divorced friend of mine ran her first marathon. To envision her doing such a thing five years ago would have been unimaginable. Divorce has lead to a major change in me as well. For years I railed on and on about golf and how silly it was. After my divorce, I have ironically started playing golf myself and I have even begun to enjoy it. Even more ironically, I now own a online dating website for golfers.

People handle divorce in a number of different ways. There are many factors to consider in any divorce. Was it amicable? Are there kids involved? Do both parents live in the same state? Divorce has often been compared to a kind of death and in some regards this is an accurate comparison. As with any death, there is a grieving process and individuals all treat that grieving process differently.

We should not be quick to judge how our friends or family react to the grieving process of their own divorce. While we may feel it maybe time for our friends to move on, it may not be the appropriate time for them. Perhaps not enough time has passed and they are just not ready.

What happens though when one of our friends is in the middle of a divorce or separation and they really seem like they don