Do you ever wonder what makes certain people go on optimistically despite their lot in life, while others engage in negative, defeatist attitudes (even though their situation is not really so horrible)? Several months ago, I watched a television program of a woman who, at a very young age, had lost both of her arms. Her adult life was extraordinary despite her physical limitations. With a tremendous amount of effort, she had learned to use her feet and toes as hands. This amazing woman managed to write, fold laundry, teach an aerobics class, and even drive a van! And to top it off, she was happily married to an attractive man, and had a son which she provided and cared for. She was an inspiration to all who were graced by her presence.

Shortly thereafter, I watched another program chronicling the life of a very large man. This man had been large from the moment he entered the world. He was a fat baby, a fat child, and a fatter young adult. In school he was teased unmercifully. His only escape was his ability to play jazz. Life was not easy for this man.

One day, he "woke-up." He realized his self-worth and found his place in this world. He began using his passion for jazz to teach music to junior high kids. Imagine