Does any other loss equal loss of love?
Have you loved and had the devastating experience of your
beloved leaving you? Have you felt the pain? Does any other pain
come nearer to it? Yes, the pain of losing someone by death may
come near to that. But even that is not comparable. By death,
you lose your sweetheart forever and know that she/he is no
longer in this world. But if he/she leaves you, you experience
the shock that is unsurpassed. You know that your beloved is in
this world itself, but you have no strength to find out where?
You have no strength to meet and find out the reason for the
betrayal. You get so numbed with the shock, that you can take no
more pain. So you are left to live with that pain yourself. And
that life is nothing but death at every moment.
When I cry for my beloved, the tears that I shed are more
precious than heavenly pearls, says the poet in me. Yes, one
cries, and one finds no one to share that cry. If you talk to
people around you about the break down you are facing, they will
probably call you a fool for grieving. After sometime, you stop
talking to anyone about your pain. That keeps the pain inside
you. That kills you slowly, but surely.
Can one overcome this? Very difficult. The very fact that you
fell in love that submerged you tells about your personality.
Such personalities that give themselves totally away, find it
very difficult to bear the loss of love. Snatch a child away
from the mother and measure the pain of the mother, you will
find out what I am talking about. Why does the mother grieve so
much? Because she carried the child in her womb for nine months,
she cared for the child after birth, she kept awake for her
child for endless nights and she dreamt for her child at all the
times. The child was an extension of her own personality. The
loss therefore becomes unbearable.
In the same way, those who love deeply, love their beloved like
their own child. They care for the beloved like their own
extension. Their love and their beloved become an essential part
of their personality. Therefore, when that love walks out, the
grief is immense and the loss immeasurable. What is to be done?
No one can say about this. It all depends on the personality.If
that person can somehow continue working towards a useful goal,
while keeping the pain all the time inside the heart, life can
be carried on for sometime. But ultimately that pain of
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