Emotional Affair or Friendship?
In a marriage, what are the limits for friendship with a member
of the opposite sex? Who sets these limits? What is the
difference between a friendship and an emotional affair? Is
emotional affair wrong? Does emotional affair help the marriage
by letting a partner vent out all emotional frustration, which
otherwise he/she would not have done with his/her marriage
partner? Or does it kill the marriage?
What is an emotional affair?
Most of us have friendships. Many of us are very close in some
friendships. We share quite a lot in such friendships. But when
one develops such a close friendship with one from the opposite
sex, it can be termed as an emotional affair. Sharing intimate
emotional details with someone of opposite sex is an emotional
affair. This the the common definition. It also includes the
clause that you are keeping your partner unaware about the
emotional bond you share with someone else.
Does it hurt marriage?
It hurts marriage if after knowing about the details shared, the
spouse feels that trust was violated. If the emotional affair
becomes strong, it may so happen that one may begin sharing more
emotional details with one's friend than with one's spouse. That
hurts the spouse and may also lead to a break up.
Why do people have emotional affair?
It is being debated that emotional affair is purely emotional or
it is begun because of physical attraction. Does one need a
friend of opposite sex to share emotional details? why not one
of your own sex? And why does one feel uncomfortable with one's
spouse about this bond? All pointers go in one direction - An
emotional affair may be the way one wants to begin a physical
relationship with another outside marriage. otherwise if one
want to have emotional sharing, or to vent out feelings, one can
easily consult a psychiatrist and tell all to feel relieved and
get advise. Or one can chose a friend of the same sex.
How to avoid emotional affair?
One who is involved in an emotional affair needs to ask
himself/herself - Is this only emotional? why do I need this
person to talk about everything? one must reflect. Talk it out
with one's spouse. Let your head control your heart for a moment
and think about the marriage and the bond. this may help in
better understanding of emotional affair and coming out of it.
Saying sorry after having an emotional affir is the first step.
Send these eCards to say Sorry and begin rebuilding your
I Cannot Believe Myself ,
I acted like a thorn ,
I feel miserable ,
I lost my senses and
I am sorry