Be Happy Now, Don't Put Your Life On Hold
So you are on you way to financial success, but you aren't there
yet. Meanwhile you have put things that give you pleasure off.
Here is the way to be happy now, while working toward your
Here is the classic "When/Then" syndrome life coaches work with.
You say "when X happens, then I'll do Y to make me happy". You
are putting off enjoyment until some time in the future when you
have attained your financial goals. This is hurting you in many
ways, but it can be overcome fairly easily. This attitude also
takes a toll on your friends and family. Lets look at how to be
happy even though you haven't obtained your financial goals yet.
The key to being happy before you have attained your financial
goal is to learn to enjoy being in the process. Most people
spend much more time being in the process of attaining the goal,
then they do in the achievement phase. We spend years in school,
counting on what it will be like on graduation day, and after
graduation day, new goals pop up that seem to rob us of our
enjoyment of our last goal. We move on to a job, dreaming of a
promotion, which then doesn't give us the satisfaction we
dreamed of. And so on. Not that I am against money, far from it,
but more and more research is coming out that shows little
correlation between income over the subsistence level and
So how do you learn to enjoy being in the process as well as the
goal attainment stage? You need to step back from the process
and begin to give yourself credit for what you are doing, and
you need to find fascination with the work you are doing in the
process stage. Look at where you started and where you are going
and how far you have come. Develop a sense of satisfaction over
the problems you have overcome, the things you have learned.
Build a desire to see how much more you will learn, what new
things will come up, etc. A side effect of stepping back and
looking at where you are going, is that sometimes we discover
the goal no longer has the appeal it had when we started the
process. Our values, attitudes, etc, change and old goals may
not reflect the new you.
Also, do some soul searching about the attitudes you have that
are moving you into self-deprivation, which is a step beyond
delayed gratification. If you are working with a life coach they
may ask you to look for some guilt driving you, unrealistic
expectations, or perfectionist tendencies. I suggest you try the
motto "good enough is my very best", meaning let it go once you
get it going. Rarely does the effort involved in making
something perfect, give you much of a payback compared to making
it good enough.
Lastly, set aside some time each day and acknowledge the good
things in your life right now. One of the most powerful
techniques you can use to build you happiness level is to take a
few minutes to recognize and be grateful for the things you have
in your life right now that you are grateful for.
So strike a balance in your life between working towards
financial success and some time to stop and smell the flowers.
You will avoid burn out, life will become fun again, and you
will probably work more effectively. Don't you feel better