First Date Jitters
Ok guys, does this situation sound familiar?
You waited for the right opportunity to approach a hot guy you
recently met, and when you asked him if he wanted to have
dinner, he accepted. Now you have a big date tonight, and you're
a mess. You don't know what to wear - nothing looks right. Your
mouth is completely dry, your stomach is turning, and you feel
absolutely out of your mind. What if you say something stupid?
Or don't look good enough? What if he turns you down for another
No, I really mean it. Relax. That's all you have to do. Getting
yourself worked up, or contemplating the "what ifs", is not
going to help you out. It's going to make you act like someone
other than yourself, and cause you to miss out on the fun you
could be having on the date.
Dating is all about getting to know someone else. If you're not
acting like your natural self, then you are not going to portray
the "real you" to the person you are trying to get to know.
First impressions mean a great deal in the world of dating.
Don't make the mistake of being one of the following personality
disasters when you're on your date.
The Mute You won't hear a peep from The Mute. Literally. The
Mute tends to be shy and awkward. The prospect of saying
something wrong frightens him - so he says nothing at all. The
Mute means well, and may like you a great deal, but you'd never
know it because he won't open up. His quietness is often
mistaken for snobbery or aloofness, and you may never get to
know The Mute unless you work hard to bring out his true self.
Unfortunately, most people lose the patience to do so, and
therefore The Mute misses out on some promising possibilities.
Don't be The Mute. You'll regret it one day.
The Self-centered Creep This is the guy who asks you what you
want to do on a date - however, you soon find out that he has
the whole thing planned already. Instead of going to a nice
restaurant like you suggested, The Self-centered Creep is taking
you to some shady bar to sit with his friends. He ignores you
while he chugs down drink after drink. You find yourself holding
him up to walk to the car, and then you have to drive him home.
The only good part of the evening is that you lose the hunger
pains in your stomach after he gets sick in your car. I don't
think I need to explain why you shouldn't be The Self-centered
The Nervous Wreck The Nervous Wreck can be spotted a mile away.
Yes, he's the one trying to take a sip of his beer without
causing the glass to shake too much in his trembling hand. He's
stuttering, avoiding eye contact, and sweating profusely. If
only he realized that dating is supposed to be fun. If you're
the Nervous Wreck, lighten up! Laugh, smile, and make your date
fun. Otherwise, your date is going to make fun of you.
The Desperate Fool The Desperate Fool loves your eye color. He
loves your clothes, your smile, your teeth, your nose. He's
planning a Caribbean get-away with you before the salad is
served. By the time dessert comes around, he's already moved you
into his apartment. The Desperate Fool is also known as The
Pathetic, Insincere, I'll-Do-Anything-To-Be-With-Anyone Loser.
Have a little self-respect. Don't be this guy.
So who should you be on a date? Try a charming, smiling, kind,
relaxed and fun person. Try being: Yourself! Good luck, and