Family ties: what to do when your newfound love is Jewish but
the family isn't.
You've finally found someone who has everything. A great
sense of humor. An unassailable dominance at board games. A
commitment to raising Jewish children. And a mother named
Dating a Jew isn't always a way to avoid the "December Dilemma,"
especially when your newfound love has converted to Judaism.
Christmas is often the dealbreaker for Christians considering
conversion, and even those who've abandoned the holiday usually
have relatives who can't comprehend their decision. Many imagine
they'll reenter the fold, escorted by a desirable man or woman
who can't imagine giving up Christmas (i.e., not you.)
Know this. Respect this. And ask your mate how to handle it. You
may find yourself drinking eggnog during your first holiday
together: so long as you're comfortable with it, go right ahead.
The key is to find a compromise that supports and strengthens
your new relationship without undermining your identity or
While you may be disappointed that you won't have another
grandmother's matzoh ball soup to taste test, having a
non-Jewish extended family can be a good thing (especially if
you like grandma's eggnog). You have the chance to share your
culture and traditions with people who may never have been
exposed to them. Remember, dating is all about new