Women Are Not Aliens
One of the very worst mistakes a man can make with women is to
believe that she's an alien creature of some sort. By this I
mean that it's a mistake to view women from the stance that
she's an entirely different sort of being in every way possible.
This simply is not true. Women are different in many ways, but
basically men and women are very similar. Everyone has the same
Physical needs, such as food and water, of course, are vital to
everyone. We all possess the same basic emotional needs as well.
We're all human and have the desire to be wanted and needed by
someone special in our lives. We all have the need to be loved
Men are taught not to be overly sensitive or show vulnerability
else they're labeled as "sissy". That may serve them well on the
football field, but not in the relationship arena. Women adore
men who are able to show their soft side to them.
Women like men who are strong and manyly, yet sensitive and
caring. Show her you have a heart underneath that tough exterior
and she'll love you for it. Go ahead and let your guard down
once in a while when the situation is appropriate. It's OK to be
a tough guy, but when you're alone with your lady you need to
soften up a bit.
If you come across as heartless, she's going to interpret that
to mean you are incapable of feeling and experiencing love and
she'll write you off as a lost cause. Women possess hormones
which cause their emotions to get the best of them at times.
That's just how it is and she can't change that. Men also
possess the same hormones in smaller quantities and they're
taught early on not to let their emotions get the best of them.
Both sexes have a basic need to feel wanted, loved, and
cherished. Don't be afraid to do things to show your lady she's
loved. Go ahead and leave her little love notes where she's sure
to find them. Present her with flowers every now and then "just
because". Be kind and caring toward animals, young children, and
elderly people. Demonstrate to her that you are capable of being
sensitive and nurturing and she'll soon realize that you're the
sort of man she could fall in love with because you're capable
of loving her in return.
If you can show your soft side to a lady and make her feel
special and cherished, you'll find this has a boomerang effect
and she'll reciprocate by saying and doing things that make you
feel wanted, loved and cherished as well. Remember, those are
basic emotional needs for everyone and you should never neglect
to inject those feelings into your relationship every chance you
get. By doing so, it makes the biggest difference in the
closeness you'll develop with her.
Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved