Why Online Dating is so Tough For Men
Online dating has become increasingly popular over the past
several years. Every year millions of men turn to internet
dating in an effort to meet more women without risking
face-to-face rejection. Unfortunately, internet dating doesnt
work very well for most men because the odds are so heavily
According to a November, 2003 study by Jupiter Research, men are
four times more likely than women to subscribe to an online
dating site and twice as likely to browse, post, or respond to a
profile. Obviously, those odds are stacked strongly in favor of
When it comes to internet dating, to paraphrase James Brown, its
a womans world.
This is quite a contrast from the off-line world, where
attractive women are not approached nearly as often as men might
While doing research for my book, Take Action: How to Meet Women
and Get Dates, I surveyed over fifty single women in their
twenties or thirties about being approached by men and their
views on being hit on and dating in general.
The most striking finding from the survey was that most women
very clearly want men to be more daring about approaching them.
In response to the question, should men be more bold in
approaching women, 82% responded yes. With a lot of effort and
time, online dating can work for some men but it is not easy.
You will probably have more success with internet dating by
viewing it as a supplement to other methods of meeting women,
instead of relying on it as your sole method. Also, use one of
the larger services like match.com. You will need to use a
shotgun approach and will therefore want to make sure you are in
as target-rich an environment as possible.
But if you really want to meet and date a lot of women you will
probably need to do it the old fashioned way. Approach women in
As the old saying goes, the more things change the more things
stay the same.
When it comes to meeting women, a confident man who can approach
a beautiful woman and strike up a conversation with her will
always do better than the 99% of men who cannot. Technology
might change a lot, but it will never change that.
Kenneth Scott is the author of Take Action: How to Take Action
and Meet Girls, which is available at amazon.com and www.dating-pickup-lines
.com. He is married to a beautiful, intelligent woman he
met at the grocery store.