Stress Lessons From A Tea-pot
Have you ever put water into a teapot to make tea before? Do you
stop and think about what happens when you do? Like most of us,
I'm sure you don't even give it a second thought, but let's
examine it a bit.
First, you pour cold water into the teapot, cover it, turn on
the stove, and leave. What happens next is interesting. As the
water beings to heat, the molecules in it begin to move faster
and faster until the water begins to boil.
Next, the steam gradually builds and builds until it finds a
weak spot in the teapot (the whistle) to escape. Once the
opening is found, the pressure bursts from it, creating that
noise that alerts you that it's time for tea.
What's fascinating about this to me is that this teapot can
teach us a lesson or two about how pressure/frustration/stress
builds and accumulates in our own lives.
What's even more deadly about this is that we often don't know
how to release these pent-up emotions in ways that don't harm
us, or those we care about.
So, let's examine this a bit more.
Lessons from a
First, there are often disturbing things that we deal with that
instead of letting go, we dump into our teapot (the back-parts
of our minds/heart). For example: working with someone who goes
out of their way to either get you in trouble or sabotage you
efforts. All day long, things that affect us negatively usually
gets dumped into our sub-conscious teapot instead of being dealt
with consciously and released.
Next, everything is usually fine until we're caught in some
situation that lights a fire under us. Sometimes being under
stressful conditions that act as a continuous heat source, often
causes our hidden feelings/emotions to begin surfacing like
water that boils in the teapot.
Lastly, when we've had all we can take and the pressure inside
the teapot grows so much that it seeks an outlet, we blow. All
the pent-up frustrations and emotions just push their way past
our often rational mindset and find the release they craved.
Unfortunately, if there is anyone caught in the way of this
eruption, they will get burned.
I believe that like most people, you too often find yourself in
state of hold-buildup-explode, so, here are a few things that
Hazard - One of the most deadly things about stress is
the damage it can have on your health. Just as the lime build-up
accumulated from water sitting in the teapot begins to eat away
at it from the inside, unreleased stress does the same to you.
Gradually, what was once a strong and reliable teapot, becomes a
worn, broken metal can fit for the garbage heap. You can't allow
this to take place inside you, so you've got to learn to release
- Use Communication - Most of the
times, we begin accumulating stress by not being upfront and
clear with people we're dealing with, so we end up stuck with
this negative energy. Whether with spouse, children, friends,
co-workers etc, learn to be clear on your position concerning
what you want done, or what can be expected of you. Let them
know "this works for me" or "This can be done in this particular
timeframe but without this" etc.
- Turn The Heat Off - Sometimes we all
find ourselves caught in situations that make our blood boil,
but you must learn to either remove the heat source or remove
yourself from it. Try not to stay in situations that keep
increasing your pressure (literally & figuratively) and try
often to find other ways to deal with them.
- Turn Off The Earth - Always remember
that you need time for yourself. Take breaks from what you're
doing; plan a relaxing vacation and take it; take a long drive
with friends/family and talk out what's bothering you; sit in a
hot bubble bath; do whatever is necessary to release your
frustrations at days end. Try a much as possible not to carry
yesterday's stress into tomorrow.